Copy of Relax. Have a glass of wine. Chill the F* out!!!
I saw this message on a friend’s page this morning, 6am ish after getting about 3 hours of sleep before spending the rest of the night getting in and out of bed because a 15 year old deaf dog I recently inherited. Little to say, my first response was to defend the dude in the vest. Maybe he was recovering from an injury, maybe he could no longer run due to age…and on I went to defend him, the underdog in the metaphor. But stating IN A REPLY on FACEBOOK that this was less about the guy in the vest and all about the badassery of the 5 year old girl. I also replied to another message about a mom that ran 103 miles of the UTMB Monte Blanc while nursing her three month old baby. My morning was off to a roaring start…without coffee, without a plan solidified for the day and in general questioning my sanity and this long stretch of solo parenting while juggling graduate school, trying to figure out a way to earn an income (because let’s be real, getting a paycheck is a real validation for place in life…more on that later) while being a solo parent for 10 more months at a time while my husband works in Puerto Rico. And just due to schedule and being out of touch in general, we don’t talk a lot. So, this solo parenting is lonely and without any emotional support.
However, there are several people in my life that feel the need to ridicule this life I lead as if I have it easy and live a life of luxury. While there are others that think I’ve made terrible choices and honestly, it goes on and on…and I believe we can all relate to this kind of judgment. Yep, JUDGMENT. We have all had it thrust upon us and we’ve all been injured by it. Why? Because honestly, most of us care what others think.
Other peoples opinion of you is none of your business.
Now isn’t that the truth? But those other people are not without fault and just a little shift in perspective can change so much. And I have been deeply in need of a perspective shift. I had a fantastic conversation with a professor of mine this morning about perspective (I’ll spare you the details) but it was enlightening. My perspective certainly experienced a shift as the day went on and I am here to say, that such a choice can completely change the trajectory of your day.
When it comes down to it, it’s miserable to try and keep up with Mr. Vest. So, let that SHIT go! Run down that dirt road in whatever shoes you are wearing without a care in the world, because we can all relax a little more.
